This is an opinion editorial by Paloma de la Hoz, a licensed psychotherapist and psychologist, who focuses on sex and couples therapy.
“The government cares about you” is a fairy tale that many people choose to believe nowadays.
When I started going down the bitcoin rabbit hole, I learned about the evolution of money and was surprised to find that for the first time in history the present is completely controlled by a “state”.
I dare to say that most of the population is unaware of what the legal norm is, let alone the often fatal consequences on the development of the family and human society.
I always felt that there was something wrong with the society. Everything is connected, of course, but finding the reason for what’s screwing everything up, just blew my mind.
Generations of people over the last century, especially the most recent, have been obsessed with what I personally call “fiat behavior”. Most of them are immersed in the absurdity of life and the way out seems as complicated as breaking out of a maze. Such a waste of human potential.
This article is the result of my personal experience as a psychologist in the last decade of my life, as well as my recent discovery of bitcoin, the legal standard (thanks Safedian) and all that goes into it.
I’ll share my opinion on why I believe the legal standard affects families, couples, and sex from a personal, feminine and professional perspective.
1. Younger adults are less motivated to marry and have a family due to inflationary pressures
I remember growing up listening to my parents talk about how everything was always expensive. It not only came from the humble origins where I grew up, but the wealthy people I met.
When I was just four years old and asked what I wanted to be as an adult, I always replied, “I want to be a mom.” This thought changed as I grew up, and I began to develop a “career” because of modern culture. I first started watching the rat race we are all stuck in.
I know many of you can relate. Nowadays especially, it seems as if the cost of living increases weekly. How can one be motivated to start a family? In fact, I see more and more young people opting to stay at home with their parents for longer periods of time. this is not normal. Instead of becoming adults, they remain children – even though they have grown up.
The misguided Keynesian theory of economics states that postponing current consumption by saving will put workers out of work and stop economic production.
Yet, a hundred years ago, most people paid for their housing, education or marriage with their work or accumulated savings – and the world did not stop. On the contrary, it flourished and became the basis for the wealth and capital we are wasting today.
Compared to previous generations and indeed, millennia of development, we find that investing in the family in modern society is less likely because it is less rational in the economic sense. The family is a low time-priority endeavor that has little place in a high time-priority society. I would say that it is highly harmful to all, as the family represents the center of society.
It is no coincidence that the dissolution of the family resulted from the implementation of economic precepts of a man who had no interest in the long term.
2. People Don’t HODL on Relationships Because of the High Time Preference
I remember when I used to visit my grandfather in the countryside – we had good conversations and he used to tell me about the circumstances he and my grandmother were going through as a couple.
He always emphasized how much he loved her and would never trade her for anything, despite the tough times.
This thought helped me in my teen years when I was starting to walk the path of life and love.
One phenomenon I see in couples today is the ease with which people choose to end a relationship rather than stay and fix it.
There’s actually an MTV show “Next” that comes to mind that was originally about dating a person and the moment they didn’t like something about that person, they would say NEXT!
What a barbaric show.
As in relationships today – there is a huge tendency when problems arise, not to try to find solutions, but to end the relationship. This is a high time-preference behavior.
Mies defines time preference more clearly in “Human Action”:
“The satisfaction of a need in the near future—all other conditions being equal—that can be obtained in the more distant future is preferred. Present goods have a higher value than future goods.”
Decreasing one’s time-preference means that you reduce the amount of discount you can offer in the future. It is the basis of all long-term thinking and therefore behavior.
I believe these higher time-preferences are basically due to the breakeven money upside. It causes us to evaluate everything wrongly.
If people were really aware of the value of money, they would be more selective about their consumption and would have saved a major part of their income for the future.
“Remarkable is the culture of conspicuous consumption, exchanging cheap plastic junk for new ones to buy as medicine, …, this culture would have no place in a society whose value would appreciate over time.” Is. ” – saphedian ammos
I don’t find it unusual that in a world where money is controlled by the state, who are the official sponsors of the “culture”, people within that culture also engage in an ever-increasing behavior.
Sex and money rule the world but people are living in confusion about these two. I believe it directly affects the way people behave in intimate relationships. Perhaps today’s hookup culture is something that has grown under the fiat standard?
Since fiat currency is the worst kind of money we have in history, I am not surprised that people under this falsehood also engage in dishonest behavior such as extramarital affairs and infidelity.
This is a domino effect. Dishonesty begins with what we touch and walk. Dirty money leads to dirty value judgments, which leads to bad behavior, bad actors, dishonest people, and fake relationships.
The result of putting money and the state together is that there are an entire generation of non-ideological people who lead double lives because they choose not to be honest with themselves and the person they decide to spend the rest of their lives with. has done.
Of course, there are many other factors, but once again I can’t help but wonder if they are all connected.
Nowadays we glorify casual sex – without discussing the energetic consequences – in the same way we promote materialism.
Clearly something is wrong, but most people are not ready for this conversation. This requires a lot of inner work to develop the state of self-awareness that allows you to understand and feel it.
If we look at things through an energetic lens, the absence of women at home results in an entire generation of feminine men who have lost their pride and masculinity.
Often raised in the shadow of tyrannical feminist women, they inadvertently drop their masculine frames and develop shadow feminine tendencies. This, by the way, is the primary cause of unhappy, sexless marriages that end in divorce.
From my point of view, it can all be traced back to how inflation has forced women to switch home from work to support their families.
In earlier centuries, before the advent of the legal standard, women stayed at home to care for the children and support the family. What an incredible gift to the world. Men maintained their dignity and pride by going out to build, build and provide. What a team they were!
,This is where the disconnect lies in the world today.
We have prioritized the creation of healthy married family units because we see men and women as separate competing entities in an inherently oppressive system, rather than as two forces working together for a common purpose – children. Taking care of — Jay Maliki
I believe that forcing women to leave the home and in the day-to-day absence of children has freed generations of immature men of weak character.
The modern woman is less interested in being an everyday mother – she is more focused on being a “career woman”. We highlight the burnt out Superboss chick mom as the role model women should strive for. I think women have convinced themselves that this so-called “women’s empowerment” is on their side, but it’s the opposite.
In their unfortunate ignorance and blindness they are unaware of their true gifts. They have become a product of state-run parasites and lemonade (as Alex Swetsky would say). These people don’t care about women or family.
It would be better for women if they did not have to worry about earning money to support their families. They will have time and place to flourish. If I were a man I would be accused of being an anti-feminist, but since I am a woman, a psychologist and sex therapist, I base this opinion on my own experience.
I am a woman and I believe that my life would be less complicated if I did not devote a significant portion of it to trying to “compete” in the market. I will spend my time raising a family and raising my man, my children, and if I have the time, my community.
I’m not sure a greater purpose exists as a woman on this earth.
“We live in a feminist establishment because generations of vulnerable men drop the frame that causes them to lose power over their relationships and their children. We live in a feminist establishment because women are collective and seize power through their coordinated voting group. We live in a feminist establishment because governments have deprive fathers who have taken away rights over their children by giving women complete psychological control over their upbringing. We live in a feminist establishment because our societies are majoritarian which has created a large group of both celibate and eternally unmarried, who have little positive effect on the women in their society.” , jere arreje
If the state cares about you, or the protection of the family, they will not be devaluing our savings or making it impossible to live by printing money out of thin air, and playing God with our cultures and ways of life.
in closing
I dream of a society in which we can draw closer to our unique, individual essence. I hope bitcoin creates this opportunity.
Swetsky calls bitcoin a “responsibility go up technology” because it is basically a type of money in which responsibility must be borne by the user. Not your keys, not your coins. It exists not only at the level of the individual, but all the way through to larger organizations (no bailouts).
By upgrading to responsible, good money, I think we change people’s behavior so that they are once again in line with their original nature.
Men with a masculine frame can once again take the lead, and the women in their feminine will nurture and lead the way in the world of color and life.
This is a guest post by Paloma de la Jose. The opinions expressed are solely their own and do not necessarily reflect those of BTC Inc. or Bitcoin Magazine.